Thank you for these questions, and you expressed your concerns in a very open manner. First, I believe you have a misconception about God. God always loves us, and if we have trusted Christ to be our Savior, He never leaves us or forsakes us. "For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’" (Hebrews 13:5b).  We may leave Him and do some really dumb things sometimes like, Abraham, Moses, David, Peter, and others did, but God doesn’t stop loving us. And because He loves us, He tells us what is not good for us, and what to stay away from. Even earthly parents, who love their children, warn them not to play with knives, not to go into the streets and play, etc. How much more God loves us! He also says He will give us wisdom in every situation, if we will ask Him. "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him [her] ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him [her]" (James 1: 5).

God doesn’t want us to marry someone who is not a Christian because He knows that it will not work out. If the one you love really loves God the Father as you say he does, then he will also want to love God’s Son Jesus Christ. "And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son as Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him" (1 John 4:14-16).

Muslims do not believe that God has a son, nor do they believe that Jesus is the Savior of the world. If you really love this man and he really loves you then he will want to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ as his personal Savior and Lord. He will want to be baptized to show he really loves Jesus and you. If you do not face reality now, it will just be a matter of time and you will be confronted with it.

If this man is truly the one for you, you will be willing to pray and wait until he has received Christ as his personal Savior. Muslims do not even believe that Jesus claimed to be God. We have an article on this you might want to read it: Refuting Islam’s Claim that Jesus, the Bible, and His Disciples Never Taught that Jesus is God.

You can not argue a person into the kingdom of God, but I have seen people pray others into the kingdom of God. You do want to share in love your belief in Christ as Savior if you have not done so yet. If you are not sure you are saved make sure first by praying and asking Christ to forgive you for your sins and invite Him into your heart and life. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God" (John 3:16-18).

Going on signs is not a very good method of finding God’s will, when God has already showed us in His word that we are not supposed to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14ff). You might be interested in looking at a question from a woman who is a Christian, but who is married to a Muslim.  Also we have had other questions recently that I have covered that are similar to yours.

You may believe you love this man, and he may believe that he loves you too, but you don’t really just marry the individual, you also marry into the family. If he becomes a Christian and his family is Muslim they will no doubt disown him. If you marry him when he is still a Muslim, then you will be asked to become a Muslim. Are you willing to deny Christ? Are you willing to raise your children as Muslims?

So you see it is more involved than just "love," even though the movies would have us believe "love" is everything. You have your whole life ahead of you, how are you going to spend it? Will you live for yourself or for Christ? If you love Christ, then you will want to keep His commandments. How many Christians around the world are giving their lives for Christ every day in Muslim countries? If you are willing to wait to marry a Christian, whether it is this man or another "born again" Christian, He will give you the desires of your heart. You have the right idea when you say, "Is it alright to pray?" Yes, pray for courage to make the right choice, and we will be praying for you too!

In Christian love,